"Friend-Zoned"

54 years old Kwang Chol Joy, better known as K. C. Joy, was made famous for not so pleasant reasons in the Netflix-documentary "Worst Roommate Ever". What happened was that the young, sociable and very friendly woman, Maribel Ramos (36 years old), who became his "roommate" by letting him move in with her in her flat to cover her many expenses, disappeared without any traces. 

He tried his best to make it look like she had left on her own. He also claimed that she might have been suicidal, and that that might be the reason for her disappearance, but no matter what, he didn't succeed in convincing the police. When he was sentenced for her murder. However, everyone who knew Maribel and her roommate, said that he had been very much in love with her and had "wanted more" than the friendship she offered him. As it was, he only had one estranged sister and no friends of his own, but sort of tagged along when Maribel went out to see her many acquaintances. Also he didn't seem to have any real plans for the future, whereas she who had served in South Korea and Iraq, was a few weeks away from graduating with a degree in criminal justice.

Not being pretty and young as she was, he had cosmetic surgery in the hope that it would make him younger and more "hot". To me, it looks like she didn't even notice what he was doing, or that she just didn't see the connection between his infatuation for her and his desperate attempts at gaining access to the looks that he felt would make her fall in love with him. At some point, she must have told him off once and for all, which made him attack and kill her. A couple of weeks later, her remains were found, and he was brought in and arrested a few hours later. Ever since he was sentenced, he has protested his innocence.

In many ways, this is a well-known tale of an everyday event: Someone falls in love with a girl or a guy who doesn't love him or her like he/she does, but offers a sex-less friendship. The "suitor" has been friend-zoned, which is a kind of double-edged sword hanging over his/her head: In a way it's an act of benevolence, but it often works as an unintended torture that may turn the rejected lover from a Romeo into an Ogre. The "zone of friends" holds many bitter hearts, dreaming of revenge ....

 

https://screenrant.com/worst-roommate-ever-kc-joy-missing-information-details/ 

 

https://www.sportskeeda.com/us/shows/worst-roommate-ever-netflix-where-kc-joy-now

 

https://abc7.com/kc-joy-sentenced-maribel-ramos-murder-fullerton-kwang-chol-sentencing-silverado-canyon/306749/

 

https://www.radiotimes.com/tv/documentaries/true-crime/kc-joy-where-now-worst-roommate-ever/ 

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Life of A German Noblewoman

 

Just like e.g. Lola Montez and Helene Sedlmayr the beautiful, German noblewoman Caroline von Holnstein (1815-1859) appeared in the so-called "Gallery of Beauties" by German artist and Court Painter, Joseph Karl Steiler. Even though she was of noble birth, she met many problems in her life, thus proving that money and heritage isn't everything. 

However, it all started when she, 16 years old, married the 34-year-old Count Carl Theodor von Holnstein aus Bayern. It was no love match, and it seems that even though the couple didn't like each other they had three children. Unfortunately one daughter and one son died in infancy, and the only surviving son was Maximilian Carl Theodor, Count von Holnstein aus Bayern. He can't have been a very interesting individual as he is best remembered as the playmate of princes Ludwig and Otto, both later Kings of Bavaria. 

Maximilian Carl Theodor, Count von Holnstein aus Bayern (1835–1895) 

The marriage not being happy, Caroline may have been an easy prey for Cupid, because she fell in love with the married nobleman, Baron Wilhelm von Künsberg. Strangely enough, her husband, Count von Holnstein, closed his eyes to the clandestine love affair of his wife. He refused her a divorce, or just an official separation, although she gave birth to four illigitimate children. Not until her husband's death in 1895 she was able to marry Baron Wilhelm von Kunsberg and have their children officially legitimized: Baron Wilhelm Maximilian Künsberg von Fronberg (1838–1909), Baroness Wilhelmine Maria Caroline Künsberg von Fronberg (1841–1889), Baron Johann Friedrich Wilhelm Karl Künsberg von Fronberg (1842–1876), and Baron Rudolf Philipp Wilhelm Goswin Karl Künsberg von Fronberg (b. 1844)

I like the idea that illegitimacy wasn't always seen as a perpetual "blemish" on one's name and character, but still, I also find it strange how some women - like e.g. Caroline - were able to "swim along" in a current of social disrespect. How did she succeed in doing that when many others were ostracized for having lovers or giving birth to illegitimate children?

https://boobytrapec.blogspot.com/2025/05/female-stereotypes-from-madonna-to.html

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Making "Love" To The Dead

Confirmed serial killer Henry Lee Lucas (1936-2001) wasn't exactly a Prince Charming, but in his lifetime he had more than what might be called "his share" of women before he perished in jail. However, most of his female victims were dead before he raped them, as death was his kind of "aphrodisiac": Being a control freak and suffering some severe childhood traumas he only succeeded in having one genuine loving relationship to one girlfriend, and when she didn't play along with his ideas anymore, he killed her too.

People are fascinated with serial killer Ted Bundy (1946-1989), who - contrary to Henry Lee Lucas - was considered a genuine charmer, as well as someone very bright and handsome. Ted had no severe problems with attracting women, but, like with many other serial killers, that wasn't enough for him. He wanted the ultimate control, which he gained by raping the corpses of some of his victims. Well, a corpse may not fight back or report atrocities that are done to it, which must be a great relief to someone who craves that special control. Or, more accurate: Who NEEDS it to function sexually. Wonder what would happen if one of the rape victims turned around and changed from the demeaned sex object to an active participant in the sex act. Well, that's what some rapists and murderers, like e.g. Rodney Alcala (1943-2021), experienced when a very young, maybe even pre-teen, victim praised his sexual skills instead of complaining of what he had done to her. It was a ruse, but one that saved her life.

Rodney Alcala

So with some of these rapists turned killers, the thrill isn't just sex, but the murder, which they see as the ultimate "proof" of their being in control, as it turns their victims into some kind of "ragdolls", whom they can use as a toy. When the female, but still alive, "toy" turns the table upon them and treats them as a male toy, they may get much too confused to follow their pre-set plan of killing her. She might have been a fine specimen in their "harem" of dead women, but being active sexually turns her from a victim into a threatening, female consumer, someone with demands, and that's not something they may be up to.

 

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/serial-killer-rodney-alcala-the-killing-game/ 

https://www.ipl.org/essay/Richard-Ramirez-Research-Paper-F9F08E9CC936F584 

 

https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/medicine-and-dentistry/necrophilia 

 

https://www.nbcnewyork.com/new-york-city/man-sex-corpse-nyc-subway-video-r-train-body/6220060/ 

 

https://www.nbcnewyork.com/new-york-city/nyc-subway-body-sex-corpse-r-train-arrest/6240784/ 

 

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/apr/16/new-york-subway-train-man-corpse 

 

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/crime/nyc-subway-rape-dead-body-arrest-b2740910.html

The Insect-Warfare

 

 

 

WTF???!!!!!!!!!! So what I saw some days ago as a red, itchy mark on my neck - which still is with me although not as big - happened because this delicate part of my body was turned into a kind of lavatory by some damn insect???? And, by the way, isn't it too early for mosquitos, as the season for their warfare on humans should be in July or August? I think so, and right now it's way too cold both for them, me and all sensible creatures, so what bit me and gave me this itchy, sore wound???? 

It looks somewhat like this, which is supposed to be a mosquito bite

I'm not in favor of mosquitos, so I was genuinely shocked to learn that they were part of Nazi plans for "biological warfare", and that they made some advanced studies, both in collecting the insects, in keeping them alive and their worth as "animal bombs". Actually, it seems that they in 1944 flooded some otherwise drained areas and planted loads of starving mosquitos to see how good they were in conveying malaria to the unsuspecting population living there. According to my information, they did that in 1944 in Italy, but I'm not sure, this information is quite reliable. If it happened, then why did they choose an ally as their "research animal"??? According to this information, the area wasn't drained and cleaned up again until the 1950s and in the meantime many innocent people were killed by insects, as that's what malaria does all too often ....

On a yearly basis, those small annoying creatures, called mosquitos, kill more people than e.g. lions or tigers. Actually, they top the list of animals killing humans.

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This being the case, it does make sense that the Nazis planned to use mosquitos as an advanced biological weapon: They are small, but may be lethal.

 

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2014/feb/14/nazi-scientists-mosquitoes-biological-weapon 

 

https://theconversation.com/is-it-ethical-to-use-data-from-nazi-medical-experiments-39928

 

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-26193808 

 

https://www.cdc.gov/malaria/about/index.html 

 

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Men Are So Very Easy

 

Being a man himself, that dentist knows his male patients through and through, and he doesn't need to force the mouth open on any of them. However, it may prove difficult to make these patients close their mouth again to look what women call "normal".

Are men really that easy, and do women think that's the case? Sorry, to confirm that suspicion, but I do think so, although I take it that some of it is make-believe or even play-acting on the part of the men.

A relationship made in Heaven? If that's not what he believes, then why stalk that pretty lady when it's obviously a waste of time?

Some men make a big deal out of some (maybe) not so pretty physically traits in a specific woman, especially some surplus weight, even berating her for them. However, the same men who do that will often be totally blind to the fact that their looks aren't what they may have been when they themselves were young and sexy.

What a loss for his women acquaintances!!!! Are we to surmise that they are devastated?

 

When visiting some special websites, I often see postings or comments by men who complain about the looks of women of today. (Some) women may feel the same way about men, but I seldom see postings or comments about that kind of disappointment, how come? Could it be because women are afraid to make men sad by that kind of complaints, and if so, why don't men feel that way about them? Women don't appreciate being called names or being ridiculed by men for not fulfilling their dreams of "perfect womanhood" so why would they expect that if it's not OK to do the same to them? As to those "perfect women" they seem to have tired out on all those men who are not perfect, and even proud of it ....

Build Your Own Religion

 

Actually, not a bad idea - or is it? To "shop" religions, or just parts of religions, after one's mood or wishes isn't considered all right to do, as it indicates that here we have an individual who hasn't any genuine FAITH. The "Ideal Religion" is supposed to be a fixed entity, propped up with "facts" of a certain kind: They are entirely built on beliefs and faith, wishes and fantasies, not hardcore proofs, like in a well-documented historical event.

Anyway, maybe someone just loves specific parts of The Quran, but - very understandable - hates what it says about the subjection of women. To such a person, the solution might be to ignore that part and substitute it with, e.g. some Buddhist stuff. Also, let's imagine that the same person hates what was done to Jesus and those two poor robbers who were executed with him, so he/she decides to skip that part and maybe go straight back to the much more cozy scenery of the stable where Mary gave birth to him?

Oops, that sure would transform the story and give it some new perspectives, but why not? I don't think I've ever seen any crucifixion sceneries with a girl, so by a few changes the story has been turned upside down, and it may even develop into a Happy End for the newborn baby. Actually, I think it's about time for something like that as the world needs many more happy endings, e.g. in politics of the today.

Queen Victoria's Maternal Aunt Was No Meek - Or Chaste - Wife

 

Portrait by Franz Xaver Winterhalter, 1848

Juliana of Saxe-Coburg-Saalfeld (1781-1860) was the maternal aunt of Queen Victoria of England (1819-1901) as well as the paternal aunt of her beloved husband, Prince Albert (1819–1861). Her younger sister, Victoria (1786-1861), married twice and had two daughters, one of them being Queen Victoria. 

Queen Victoria's mother, "Vicky of Kent"

The sisters were young at the time that the Russian empress Catherine the Great (1729-1796) was looking for an appropriate wife for her grandson, Grand Duke Konstantin Pavlovich (1779-1831). He was the so-called "heir-presumptive" for most part of his elder brother, Alexander I's (1777-1825), reign. He might have become the new tsar at the death of his brother, but had - or may have? - secretly renounced his claim to the throne. Anyway, it was his younger brother, Nicholas (1796-1855), who became the new tsar in 1825.

Konstantin Pavlovich, the husband of Juliana

Court Etiquette wasn't Konstantin's favorite concern, and neither was a fitting behavior as a husband of his German bride, Juliana, who converted to Orthodoxy as Grand Duchess Anna Fyodorovna. Or put another way: He was abusive, and it was noticed by bystanders at the court. Juliana was handpicked by Constantin's grandmother, Catherine the Great, and the couple were married in 1796, but the union wasn't a success. Konstantin was a very jealous and brutal husband, who once put his wife inside an enormous vase and used it as target practice. However, she escaped him and her (childless) marriage by an annulment by tsar Alexander I in 1820. He had tried to reconcile his abusive brother with his estranged wife, but in vain, as she had settled for a new life with lovers and freedom. Also, her clandestine affairs brought her what the marriage to Constantine didn't accomplish: Children. The first one was a son, Eduard Edgar Schmidt-Löwe (1808 - 1892). His father may have been a Swiss nobleman, Jules Gabriel Emile de Seigneux, but when he turned as controlling as Constantin the relationship ended. However, in 1818 Eduard was enobled by his mother's younger brother, Ernst I, Duke of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha, as von Løwenfels. 

Louise Hilda Aglaë d'Aubert

In 1812 Juliana gave birth to her second illegitimate child, Louise Hilda Aglaë d'Aubert. The father of the child was Rodolphe Abraham de Schiferli, a Swiss surgeon, professor and chamberlain of her household from 1812 to 1837. He had advised her during her first pregnancy and was a close friend of hers - also he was a married man. This baby was adopted by a French refugee, Jean Francois d'Aubert, but she died in her early twenties.

This young woman is Juliana as a teen, brimming with life, as well as with hopes and desires of her own, but when she grew old, her life, even dedicated to music as it was, was full of sad losses. She outlived her former, abusive husband by 29 years, and I don't think she mourned his demise, but the death of others, like e.g. her brother Ernest I, Duke of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha must have been extremely sad and hard to bear. However, she may have had some relief in the fact that her illegitimate son, Eduard, married his illegitimate daughter and thus her niece, Bertha von Schauenstein.

German princess Juliane of Saxe-Coburg-Saalfeld, who escaped her abusive marriage to the tsar’s brother

 

https://theroyalwomen.com/2021/08/30/juliane-of-saxe-coburg-saalfeld/ 

 

https://www.madamegilflurt.com/2014/02/the-scndalous-life-of-princess-juliane.html 

 

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