The Double-Mirror

"I'm still looking good!"

Yes, you are, but you're neither looking your best nor how you think you are looking. To some that's an unforeseen tragedy, but to others it's nothing to worry about as looks aren't everything - or so they say .... However, without knowing it we often judge each other by looks. One of the places to see this system in action is many of the so-called "women subs". 

In these subs we may find an ongoing - and never-ending? - litany about men. This flow of words may turn into torrents about abuse, bad marriages, creepy sexual expectations and blatant sexism, but the point is that so much/most of it is a signal of focusing on anything, but what makes them strong and happy. It's a kind of going around in circles that doesn't bring any solutions to the main problem: These women NEED the feeling of accept, also by other women, but mostly by men, and a lot of their complaints go on their own insecurity, especially when it comes to looks and body value.

The truth is that we (i.e. most or many of us) tend to let our worth as a human being be set by others or what we feel they think about us. Men count as some sort of status symbol in the world of women as they themselves count as symbols of success and value in the world of men. However, to let this system gain status as the ultimate evaluating system is crazy. We know it, but still, it's to be seen in all these women subs that should be denouncing it, but which only is up to a certain point: That's not good in the long run ....