When reading the 1960's text about SEX, which is quoted below, it's obvious that one of the most abused ideas is the "wifely service to a husband": "In all things be led by your husband's wishes." In what I call "The Patriarchal Mythology" these "wishes" are considered "natural". To read Freud is to learn that the male sex is what's it all about, but then he was VERY patriarchal in his approach. Women are "envious" of the male organ according to him, whereas I would say that men are obsessed with women and sex and some don't shun illegal and immoral ways to get access to both.
Sex education the American way seems to have been centered upon the biology of reproduction and morals. I wonder if the clitoris and the female capacity for multiple orgasms were mentioned. Actually, I bet that the text books skipped that part and the human biology.
What was considered important was not to rock the boat of Patriarchy, as can be seen from this extract from a sex education textbook for girls, printed in the early 1960s:
“When retiring to the bedroom, prepare yourself for bed as promptly as possible. Whilst feminine hygiene is of the utmost importance, your tired husband does not want to queue for the bathroom, as he would have to do for his train. But remember to look your best when going to bed. Try to achieve a look that is welcoming without being obvious. If you need to apply face cream or hair-rollers wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night.
When it comes to the possibility of intimate relations with your husband it is important to remember your marriage vows and in particular your commitment to obey him. If he feels that he needs to sleep immediately then so be it. In all things be led by your husband's wishes; do not pressure him in any way to stimulate intimacy. Should your husband suggest Congress then agree humbly all the while being mindful that a man's satisfaction is more important than a woman's. When he reaches his moment of fulfillment a small moan from yourself is encouraging to him and quite sufficient to indicate any enjoyment that you may have had.
Should your husband suggest any of the more unusual practices be obedient and uncomplaining but register any reluctance by remaining silent. It is likely that your husband will then fall promptly asleep so adjust your clothing, freshen up, and apply your night-time face and hair care products. You may then set the alarm so that you can arise shortly before him in the morning. This will enable you to have his morning cup of tea ready when he awakes.”
That certainly sounds as "fun" for one part, and that's not the female one ....
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