"Bonded" By A Camera

(Dreamstime-picture)

Several years ago someone told me a gruesome, but not all that uncommon tale, of a young woman who let herself get involved in a cyber affair with a bad man on the Net. I suppose they sort of seduced each other, and for a while they were very close indeed. However, over time he somehow got the upper hand over her because nobody had told her of the dangers of webcams. 

 

Her net-lover, being no better than he was, threatened to post his takes of her on YouTube when she decided to leave him for a more substantial lover in her neighborhood. Suddenly, what had been some kind of love and a lot of fun games turned bad, and she grew more and more afraid that he would revenge himself on her for leaving him and thus stop their cozy times. This revenge was nothing but what might be called "shame terrorism", which is something that has kept women in line for a very long time. In this case there was no money, but still she was made to feel like a prostitute, who "sold her body". 

It goes without saying that no matter how these proofs, whether on video or in writing, of "shameful activities" have come about, they are not for public use unless that has been agreed upon from the start. As we know, some people like this kind of publicity and seek it, even invites strangers to follow their activities on more or less public sites, but that wasn't the case with these two. Well, sadly enough, the woman let herself get blackmailed and hooked up with her former lover from fear of exposure. That's too bad, I really find that stupid, but I guess she sort of talked herself into the belief that although he had treated her so badly, she still loved him. Something I doubt very much, as it's very, very strange to one of my way of thinking. As it is, I can't judge her, only pity her as she seems caught in real life because she was caught on tape ....